My son hits. He hits when he is frustrated, he hits when he doesn’t want help with a task and he hits when he wants someone to back away.
This behavior is new but completely unwelcome.
Johannes is starting Montessori in a couple of months and I do not want him hitting any of the other children, or teachers. So I am adamant to put an end to this behavior as soon as possible.
When Johannes hits me I crouch down to his level right away, I take his hands and look him in the eyes and say in my sternest voice, “You do not have the right to hit me. You are allowed to be frustrated, but you cannot hit.” Generally this works to stop the behavior. He buries his head down in shame, and sometimes even cries a little. But a day will pass and its as though he forgets. I’m hoping by continuing to address the behavior right away, this will end.
Truthfully I understand why my toddler hits. I understand that he is trying to communicate with those around him and no one understands him. I understand and empathize with his frustration. However I do not condone hitting. I want to express to him that he is allowed to be upset and that he has every right to feel like he does, but he must channel it some other way.
How did you deal with hitting? Or is my toddler the only one who hits?