“How is he sleeping?” seems to be the one question everyone asks me when I share that I have a new baby. I’m not sure why a baby’s sleep is the measure of a parenting success or why its even really relevant but I thought I’d address how my babies sleep at around this one month mark, and how Henrik is currently sleeping.
My babies don’t sleep through the night. I mean sure once in a while they surprise me and fail to wake up for a feed, but its a rare occurence.
At one month old, Henrik is awake for approximately 30minute intervals during the day. That means that by the time I feed him, burp him, change him and maybe try to do a little tummy time, he’s tired again and crying to be put to sleep. During the day his naps range from 10minutes, 30minutes or even 3-4 hours. He usually has one longer stretch of a couple of hours in the morning, around 9-11am and another long stretch from 12-2, 3 or 4 depending on the day. Usually I try my best to make sure these naps happen in his crib, but the rest he kind of sleeps wherever. On me, in the stroller, the wrap, the swing… as long as he’s sleeping I figure its a win!
He has his fussy period in the evenings like all babies. And his tends to start around 5pm right now and go all the way through until 8 or 9 pm. He has a hard time settling and is so visibly tired! I find this to be the most frustrating time for me, especially because its also the time I am trying to put Johannes and Magnus to bed. So Michael and I try to alternate taking turns rocking and putting him to sleep.
Eventually he settles down around 9pm and sleeps. The first stretch being his longest. Usually this stretch is about 4 hours, though he did have a 5 hour stretch once! Yey for that!! After that he gets up after 3 hours around 5:30/6am which seems to be his real wake up time. Though he’s usually sleepy again almost right after feeding and in and out of naps until about 9am when he’s ready for a really long one.
We originally had Henrik in our room at night but realized he and us didn’t sleep well because our noises were waking one another up. So we moved him to his room around 2 weeks, with black out curtains and a sound machine. We swaddle him nice and tight which he loves, and put him in his Dock-a-Tot! Side note, Henrik and I made a video the other day to show you how we do our swaddle which I’ll share with you on here and my YouTube channel tomorrow.
But all this to say that babies do what they do. They wake up to eat or for comfort and at 1 month old I’m really not concerned about him sleeping through the night. It would be nice I admit, but I have no such expectations of my little guy. After three babies, I’m not even sure if any baby sleeps “through the night”…I think anything over 3 hours is winning.