photography by Justin Heylen
There aren’t too many of us in this family. Michael and I each have one sibling. My dad is an only child and I have no firsts cousins. Growing up it was only my brother and I, and after my parents immigrated to Canada there were even less family members to visit with.
For the most part we didn’t really mind. When I finished grade 8 my family moved into a house with a big back yard, we bought a puppy and the rest is sort of history. Our social circles expanded as we got older and having immediate close family members became less important.
When I met Michael my family grew. We expanded our family to encompass a new sister. As she got married our family grew some more. And now with our new sister in law, Beth, joining our “tribe” we grew even bigger.
Johannes and Magnus don’t have any cousins yet, a point Johannes likes to bring up from time to time when he hears his friends talk about their own family members. I thought about that long and hard the other day, do we grow our only family even bigger so they have more siblings to grow old with? Do we buy a dog? Michael and I haven’t quite reached a decision on what the future will hold for us. Its for certain that one day we will no longer be here, and our boys will be on their own, hopefully with families of their own to help and support them in times of need. But for this second, this minute, this hour, they have so much love around them.
Their aunts and uncles, grandmas and grandpas, and great-grandparents as well love them so incredibly much, that I do think its enough. They may not understand it completely, but I know they feel it in their hearts.