Work In Progress

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my favorite photos of the week (all iPhone @bluebirdkisses)

I must confess, I haven’t picked up my camera in over a week and I’m not sure when I’ll get a chance to again.  The weeks seem like they are just flying by and before I know it its Monday again.  Every Monday I promise myself that I will work really hard during the week and disconnect on the weekend.  I promise that I will take my laptop and cell phone and lock them in a closet for two days.  But then I never do.

The bigger truth is that my friend Nicole and I have been working on something big.  A project.  Secret project!  So as it would go with all secrets I can’t really tell you what it is.  Its killing me not to tell anyone.  I am probably the worst at keeping secrets. I ruin every surprise Michael ever plans for me.  I search and ask as many questions as it takes to figure it out.  And when I’m on the giving end of a surprise, I’m usually too excited to keep quiet so I spill the beans.

But not this time.  All I can tell you is that I’m excited, and exhausted because the only time Nicole and I get to work on our super secret project is at night once the kids are in bed.  So between that and blogging there’s not much time left for anything else, including early to bed.

So there you have it, a blog post about nothing other than my sheer excitement.

To Work Or Not To Work? The Mommy Dilemma.

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During the Christmas break as we were sitting down to dinner, Johannes began asking Michael about his day at work.  For a few months now Johannes likes to pretend that Montessori is actually his work…and me? well I’m his Go Train driver, subway driver or SkyTrain driver, depending on his mood.  So on this day the boys were chatting about their “work” day.  I interjected with a statement about groceries, or something of the sort, to which Johannes abruptly stated, “Mommy this is a conversation about work.  Daddy and I are talking about our work.  You didn’t go to work, you just stayed home all day.  So you are not allowed in this conversation.”

silence.  crickets actually.

Maybe its the fact that since finishing high school I never took more than one or two weeks off of anything until Magnus was born.  Or that I had been stressing out over the idea that in a few short weeks I would be heading back to work.  Whatever the underlying reasons may have been, he touched a nerve.  At three and a half years old he touched a nerve because with the flick of a switch I was transported 10, 12, 14 years into the future.  I then realized something fundamental.  It doesn’t matter what path I choose, to work, to stay home, to work from home.  It doesn’t matter.  The kids don’t get it and they likely won’t get it until they become parents of their own.

Its not just my dilemma, the working mom vs stay at home mom.  Its a battle most mom’s out there tackle at one point or another.  For some its a decisive lean in one direction or another.  For others its not a decision at all, but rather a necessity.  And yet for many women, mothers, wives, its not a clear answer.  We spend years in post secondary institutions, we cultivate ambitions and acquire dream jobs.  We dream of being career women, and mothers, and having it all.  The house, the family, the job.  That’s the dream isn’t it??  And yet when our children are born a switch turns for so many of us.  We feel this love we never felt before and we quickly realize how unforgiving the passing of time really is.  We start to miss our children before they even grow, and we begin to doubt our own ambitions.

Its a roller coaster of doubt and uncertainty, with a heavy dose of guilt mixed in.

Will our children grow up to appreciate the choices we make as moms, whether we stay home or go to work?  Maybe.  Will we as moms and career women have regrets about either choice or direction?  Probably.  Is there a perfect scenario?  I’m not really sure.

At the end of the day I believe its both a personal choice to work or stay home with the children, combined with the right circumstances, and as Anne-Marie Slaughter so beautifully wrote in the article, “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All”It’s time to stop fooling ourselves, says a woman who left a position of power: the women who have managed to be both mothers and top professionals are superhuman, rich, or self-employed.

Slaughter believes that we’ve been lied to as a generation. Lied to that we can in fact do it all. Be superhuman. Have both the perfect home life and the perfect career and that we should accept no less.

What do you think?

In My Other Life: Newborn Photos

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Do you ever play the “in another life” game?  You know, the one where you pretend that you were something or someone else in a past life?

I do.

In my other life I was a photographer.  Its my favourite hobby, besides this blog.  I love taking photos of kids and parents especially.  I take tons of my own children, but when the opportunity arises to shoot a friend its always a little bit exciting for me.

My good friend Nicole, and business partner…this will be revealed in due time, had a sweet little baby boy last week and I felt so honoured that she asked me to photograph him and their family.  He really is the sweetest little guy.  At only 3 days old he stole my heart.

There is nothing like those first days at home with your new baby.  Nothing at all. The exhaustion, the pain of recovery, the adjusted schedules…they all pale in comparison to the incredible excitement and love you have for this new tiny human.  I love that feeling.  Bathing in your little’s new smell, watching their eyes open and adjust to their surroundings.  Hearing the little gurgles and sighs.  Its magic.

Congratulations Joey, Nicole and Benjamin on the sweetest little addition.  Magnus and Johannes are super excited to add a new member to their crew.

Online iPhone + Photography Workshop

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With so many requests to hold an intro to DSLR photography and iPhone-ography workshop once more, I decided to hold an online Making it Pretty Workshop on February 7th.

The iPhone and introduction to Photography workshop takes place in the BluebirdKisses forum, but it is accessible by password only. I will be posting that day’s material online in the mornings, let you read through it and at a designated time I will be online for one hour to answer questions. You also have the opportunity to meet other members on the forum, and networking is so important. By keeping the workshop in a forum format you all have a chance to get to know one another, and me, ask questions on your time. You are not obligated to participate at the designated time, the lessons and your access is left up for a month, so if you are away during the February 7, you can access the information at any time after and I will log in periodically to answer your questions.

**Please note space is limited and participants are registered on a first come first server basis**

Hope to see y’all there!

the new 4moms mamaRoo + an awesome giveaway!

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You guys might already know about the 4moms mamaRoo, or at least, if you follow me on Instagram you see Magnus in his mamaRoo all the time.

Magnus loved his mamaRoo from the very beginning, and I use it mostly at meal times when I have to cook and clean and feed Johannes or hurry him out the front door.  But this past week, with me headed back to work I found myself relying on the mamaRoo even more so than before.  I wish I had 4 hands, 2 to hold my baby, and 2 to make breakfast and help Johannes get dressed.  But I don’t.  And Magnus is just as happy being swayed from side to side or sometimes just sitting there observing all of the commotion of the morning.

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The biggest difference in the new mamaRoo is the bluetooth and the iTunes app!  I usually put the mamaRoo at the front door of the kitchen in the morning or by the window when I’m working from home, and I can control the movement and sound entirely from my phone, which is kind of amazing.

I honestly didn’t know how or if I would need any device when I had Magnus, when Johannes was little I just held him myself.  But its a different ball game with two kids, it really truly is and I’m on my own at the busiest times of the day.  So for us the mamaRoo is the best ever, and 4 months later Magnus still enjoys it.  He doesn’t fall asleep in it like he used to, but he loves it to sit and just relax now or play with the odd toy.  I call it the robot-babysitter.  I am already nervous about what I’ll be doing to occupy him when he outgrows it!  This is the only way aside from the carrier that I’ve been able to keep both kids happy and entertained.

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So with all that said I have another AMAZING GIVEAWAY for ya’ll!  A new bluetooth capable mamaRoo of your own!  All you have to do is enter below by leaving a comment, and for an extra entry follow the blog on Facebook.  The giveaway is open to North American mamas only (sorry you guys from other parts of the world, this time its just NA) and contest closes January 16.  Good luck you guys!

PS Facebook link isn’t working in the rafflecopter widget so you can click here instead!

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**thanks everyone who entered, the winner has now been selected and emailed**